1) Try it; you’ve thought about, you’re here, so give it a go
2) Decide if a specialist niche site is for you, or a general dating site.
3) Take time to create a good profile
4) Show your personality in the profile, everyone is unique, writing… ‘I like to work hard, play hard’ though isn’t unique
5) Use specific examples in your profile, writing ‘I loved my time travelling by train through Rajasthan’ sounds so much more appealing than ‘I love to travel’
5) Be yourself in your profile, but be your ‘best’ self
6) Create an original handle, but avoid ‘lovemonster1000’
8) Upload good current headshot photos
9) But don’t upload recent photos of you with your ex, on your mate’s stag weekend, or kissing your pet dog
10) Search regularly, on a good dating site there will be a good churn of new members all the time
11) Make good use of the sites functionality, you’re paying for it so use all the different searches methods, hot lists etc
12) It’s a numbers game (to an extent), so logging in once a week and sending just one email isn’t going to get you very far.
13) But it’s not that much of a numbers game, sending out 20 template emails an evening is just spamming, you’ll just get disheartened also as your emails are inevitably ignored
14) When writing an email try to pick out one or two things from the persons profile, its shows why you’re interested and of course that you read it (see above)
15) Don’t though write a six paragraph statement of compatibility.
16) Give it a couple of emails if you like the persons profile; it takes 3-4 emails before a hunch can be proven true
17) Don’t virtually fall in love spending 4 weeks emailing and calling only to meet up and realize there’s zero physical chemistry.
18) But don’t go on an endless series of coffee first dates without any sense of anticipation beforehand
19) Online dating is just another channel; don’t ignore the world around you
20) Take a break from the site if you didn’t meet anyone. Come back refreshed and energized for another go.